Life goes on.

I feel bad when people have to lose their love ones. Weather its by choice or not, it’s painful. For losing someone to death, I guess I can’t really understand the pain of losing a child, or parent. Whoever has gone through a loss I understand, I really do! And I know not to say it will get better because in some ways it really doesn't. Except in the way you can laugh at the best parts of that times spent and love all over again. It doesn’t make it any easier but that won't be apparent until later as to why.

One of my close friends passed away about four years ago, and for a long time I felt awkward waking up in the morning knowing that she isn’t here anymore. Death is hard to get over because it won’t somehow get better. Fact remains, that person is never going to return, and most likely no other person will take their spot in your life. Over time people heal and learn to live without the people who are gone. That sting of pain fades away and we learn to enjoy the moment that we spent with that individual instead of grieving over them. I can’t imagine how people feel when they lose a best friend, a family member; my heart goes out to them.

As for losing someone you feel that you love. No one can define love because everyone has their own meanings and throughout life those meanings change for us. To get past something like that can be the hardest, especially when your heart doesn’t want to, or if it’s not by choice. There is no solitary easy answer for getting past someone you love or may feel that you love. Regardless of the direction you take, you are going to realize that getting over someone you love is not going to happen quickly, nor is there a secret remedy or magic to help you do this. Even as the months, even years go by, this person will, to some level (depending on the level of emotion you felt); there will always be a constant reminder of the life you spent together. The more intense the emotions felt during the relationship, the more intense will be the pain and sadness felt.

I believe that people feel the same way when losing a friend but it just doesn’t go to that degree. It’s not as common because friendship doesn’t end, it just fades away. If it does end, it ends in a disagreement, so it can be mutual I suppose.

During the time, it feels as if you are the only person who suffers that way because no one could possibly feel as worst. While we can all agree that this sort of pain is way too common. Eventually people begin to realize that it was only the loss that caused the pain. The feeling of having suffered a loss is at all times a painful experience, but more intense in its early days. In time this pain will fade away. But the time of feeling that pain is the most terrible time possible; It’s odd how people get through it and become happy again. How does one feel like life is coming to an end. That instant of pain is greater then all pains in existence. It’s said that God never gives you something which you cannot handle, which proves that life does go on.