Every now and then in relationships like friendships of any sort, people make you out to be something your not and vice versa. You want to believe that your friend or spouse or whoever, is everything that you think a person ought to be or that they are just the way you assume and are. Obviously because you are fond of them and share similar insight with them, is why you have this relationship in first place, otherwise if you don’t see eye to eye with a certain person and you don’t share that bond of friendship with them. People get to know each other overtime. Based on your knowledge of that person, you decide if you want to be in that persons company or not. With me, people who know me know that I’m sensitive to certain topics, or what gets me upset or angry.
Once you get to know a person, you know how they are. If they are the “tell it like it is” type, you realize that they will say it weather you like it or not, but that doesn’t mean you don’t like there other qualities or don’t enjoy their company. It just means, you accept them for who they are.
In the beginning, we know how the person is and over time we start to cherry picking in what we want to see in their personality. If a person is outspoken and cold at time, their mates like to see the “good in them” and “look at their oh so pure heart”. As much as I agree with looking at people’s good rather then bad, it does crash. Later, when we’re fighting, it’s like “wait, how can we be fighting about this, doesn’t she know me, and doesn’t she know that I am sensitive to this”. It often happens in marriage and friendships where we only see the good and cling on that, but we don’t see the person as a whole.
If they love their purple blue frogs, then they love their purple blue frogs!!
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