No one listens, everyone talks.

No one listens, everyone talks. Sometimes when we do listen, we’re just waiting for them to finish so we can begin. Listening is a lively process to discern what the person is saying and feeling. Sometimes, all I want is for someone to listen to what I have to say and I wish for myself to do the same listening in return because that’s how we really get to know people and many times we find the better in person rather then worst. Other times, we’re listening to someone talk on, and in our head, we get an idea and we’re waiting for them to finish and holding onto our thought so desperately because we know “exactly” what to say. If not that, we’re ready to be Dr.Phil with a list of advice. News flash: Not everyone is seeking for advice

We can be so judgmental about others situations or feelings that we don’t care enough for their point of view. If someone is freaked out about something, which may mean nothing to us, doesn’t signify it doesn’t mean anything at all. Everyone lives a diverse life, with different experiences and importance of factors. It’s so much easier in words then in person to be nonjudgmental, because we judge people and things and statements within seconds. But I guess, maybe we can make an effort to be non-judgmental while we’re listening to someone trying to ease their heart. The least we can do is give our undivided attention, and just listen carefully to what the other person is saying and for once focus on feelings, not just facts. Yeah, facts are important, but so are feelings.

That being said, our lives are surrounded with distractions. If we’re in the middle of fighting our guts out and the phone rings, we run towards the phone. E-mail must be checked daily, and few times through out the day and everything else. I mean, if we’re in the middle of something, especially if that involves another person in a sensitive position, can’t a phone call wait? What will happen? If it’s important, they’ll leave a message, if not, we’ll see it on call id and call them back. We can always return calls, text back, and email later.
We’re always encouraged to talk, to get it out of our systems and what not. That only teaches us to complain, and then expect people to listen to those complains and become overly negative. Complaining is only half of the puzzle, the point is to figure something out, find some sort of comfort, get something out of talking it out.

It’s just been something I’ve been noticing, not in others but myself. I’ve seen people with a satisfied smile after being heard or disappointed faces because I just didn’t seem interested enough or something else was more important at the time.