My dear God!

I am going to get married soon inshallah and with that, I have began to prepare. I’ve been talking and exchanging ideas with many other Pakistani brides-to-be
...and I’m sorry but I have to vent! (I know you saw it coming)
What the hell is wrong with brown people (YES I SAID BROWN PEOPLE)!!! After reading and talking to girls in the same position as myself for about a year now, and hearing about such stories in real life has got me convinced that the nation is immensely consumed by greed! Both males and females of all ages!

Brides are wanting/demanding/expecting gifts and jehez, and the Grooms are not far behind, In-Laws just seem possessed. Real life stories are revolving in the community and yet no one claims that they are doing something wrong. I include myself in this, as I sometimes get ahead of myself too.

To all the future grooms!! You, the HUSBANDS are responsible for providing the cars, the bedroom set, the china, the misc furniture, anything and everything that you and your wife will need after you are married...even the needle/thread required for fixing your "loose button" goodness! How can you men sleep at night thinking that bed you are laying on was paid by some senior citizen's life savings! I’ve never experienced this in my family but I know a lot of cousins/girls who had to take a house worth stuff to their in-laws.

Girls! Buy what you need and can afford! Quit browsing/copying other brides! Buy the outfits and jewels you know you will wear, and will not be a burden physically and financially! What will you do with 10090099283 outfits anyway?? Just buy things as you need them? It’s ridiculous to buy everything at once! Control your mothers who buy you 20 sets of gold and save it for your wedding. Those same sets are now tacky/old/ugly and trust me, they’re not doing it for love…they’re doing it to look and feel rich. It’s disgusting.

In-laws ok, clearly we know you are possessed, but try to be nice. Leave the newlyweds alone for some time, let them adjust to each other. Who knows people may not complain...and like you for once. Please, let your son feel how it is to be a responsible, mature man, a wife is a blessing, be happy when he respects the woman and quit poking her like she is some sort of a circus animal. The wedding is HER dream, not yours. Don’t snatch her one day away from her by doing your own stuff, and don’t just sit back and wait for the wedding day so you can dress up and show up like you organized the whole thing. HELP OUT and don’t be cheap!

Cousins - No, sorry no can do. Go get your own

We all need to be reminded what’s important in life.
Not the best wedding clothes
Not the nicest house
Not the most money
Not the most beautiful wife/husband
But- Happiness, health, love, family and religion!

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If I could back in time....

respect

Respecting others is one of the most significant characteristics you can teach your children. Respect is something that needs to be shown to everyone (every race/age/type/culture). As a parent it your job to help teach your children the importance of respect. As a Pakistani, I am ashamed to say that majority of our parents are racist, and have raised us the same way (not necessarily meaning that we are racist)
The most important thing to remember is that children for the most part learn by example, and as children that example is from our parents and family members. So if you want to teach your kids to be respectful of others, it’s important that you should show people respect, as well. When I say respectful, I don’t only mean to be polite and kind to others because I think majority of the parents really do want their children to be that way. When you crunch your face upon another race, don’t think your child missed that expression of yours. To be honest, majority of the time you’re not looking down upon another person because they’re different, but because you think you’re better. How could we possibly think that black people are harmfull, or white people are snobby, or bangali’s are this and tamil’s are that and Chinese are this and that! Where did those thoughts even come from? Ofcourse they came from our parents or family. Believe me when I say that a lot of parents don’t allow their children to be friends with a certain race because I’ve seen and heard this from my own eyes and it’s disgusting. When you forbid marriages between different cultures because “you can’t marry a Spanish boy, they steal”, your child heard you. How beautiful would the person be who believes in true equality, and respects all people for their self and for who they are, and not based on their looks or money. Don’t assume that your child will grow up and be a hippie and not understand harm. My neighbor says a good parent teaches their child to swim, in case the boat breaks down but that swimming doesn’t have to include bad attitude towards others.
Respect is something that is learned over time. It can’t be an instantaneous thing. There’s no real way to explain to a child that she needs to respect others without experiencing that need first hand.

To sum it up: Don’t be such a jerk

SO AMAZNING!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5Kyy_4NE3Y&feature=channel

touches the heart!

p.s

three semesters down!!!!!!!!!!!

My favorite hobby is

...photography! Well at least it is today. Sometimes it is baking. And sometimes it is decorating or make-up. But for today, it's photography.
I’m not very good but I really would like to be. I want to capture Kodak moments, not really of people but things, nature and food. I have such an obsession with taking pictures of food, that later looks like something very delicious. Overall, I like to take pictures of things, just everyday things.
I’ve been lucky to get a nice camera that I really like, except I’m having a hard time understanding its functions and settings. It’ll take time. Another thing I’ve discovered is that you don’t actually need an expensive camera to be a good photographer; you can just be good at it with any camera you own. Sadly, a skill I don’t have yet. It’s also hard to capture a good moment because I can’t carry around a chunky camera everywhere. But I love it; it’s so nice with the focus and colors. I wish I had time to take pictures, I’ve just been so busy to have a some time to take pictures. Maybe winter times!

Anti-Frizz serum

I've been using this for about 4ish years on and off. They changed the bottle, it used to be round and cuter. It takes that puff dry feeling the hair gets after it dries from a shower. I don't know how well it would work for someone with frizzy hair, but I think it does a good job! I've always found it at majority of the drug store shops, like Shoppers. I don't know why I'm feeling love for this today.

yeeeeeeeeeeee

Congradulations

I love my NK

last but not least

Day 10: One person you can trust

day 999999999

Day 9: Two things you wish you could do.
1) Fly
2) Sew clothes

Bridal tea party

I saved these ideas because I love the idea of a tea party. Someone please have a bridal tea party!

mmm mmm good

Honestly, i can’t get enough of Starbucks French Vanilla Frappacino. It’s so good and I’m not a coffee/tea person so I don’t know what it’s like to “need” coffee, but I seem to crave this stuff!!

Days 8 ||||||||

Day 8: Three words you can’t go a day without using.

1) um
2) A
3) And

Yes, I'm very creative.